Empowering Conversations: Discussing Learning Differences with Your Child

Hey there, Moms, Dads, Guardians and Superheroes to kids!

I don’t have to tell you the journey of parenting can be both exhilarating and challenging, especially when it comes to supporting a child with a learning difference.

Today, we're delving into a topic that's close to many of your hearts (mine included) – the journey of sharing with your child their learning difference.

We here at Dyscalculia Tutoring are here to tell you – knowledge is power!

We're here to assure you that having a safe, open, and honest conversation with your child will positively impact your child's overall confidence and success.

Sharing and discussing your child’s learning differences with your child is a choice that can lead to remarkable empowerment in your child.  It is a pivotal step toward fostering your child’s growth, resilience, and self-awareness.  Odds are, your child already knows that something doesn’t feel right, they are struggling and don’t understand why.  Having an open and honest conversation can be a game-changer for the way he /she/they see themselves.  

So, grab a cup of tea or coffee, and lean in with me as we embark on this journey together.

Why it Matters: Developing Strength through Knowledge

Did you know that understanding one's learning disability can be a catalyst for positive change?  According to the National Center for Learning Disabilities (2007), children and teens who are aware of their learning differences tend to develop better self-advocacy skills and have increased self-esteem. They are more likely to embrace their strengths, recognize their challenges, and seek appropriate help when needed. 

Avoiding conversations about learning differences might seem like a protective measure, but it can actually hinder your child's academic and social-emotional growth. 

The National Institute of Health (n.d.) reports that children who aren't informed about their learning disabilities may experience feelings of frustration, anxiety, and even shame.  The National Center for Learning Disabilities (2007) revealed that 1 in 5 children who lack awareness of their learning disabilities or do not receive appropriate support are twice as likely to drop out of school and struggle socially and emotionally.

The Downside of Silence: Negative Impacts

The Courageous Conversation: Strategies that Work!

Now, the question that might be tugging at your heartstrings – how do you approach this conversation? 

1. Create a Safe Space: Establish an atmosphere of love and acceptance, where your child feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings.

2. Choose the Right Moment: Timing matters. Pick a time when both of you can have an uninterrupted conversation.

3. Use Simple Language: Tailor your words to your child's age and comprehension level.

4. Focus on Strengths: Emphasize their unique abilities and amazing qualities that make them who they are.  

5. Reassure: Let your child know you are their champion, and will help them when they are struggling.  Challenges do not define who they are. 

6. Boundaries:  Talk with your child about if, when, and how they want to share with others their diagnosis. Role-playing is a great way to practice this skill.  It is important to respect your child's privacy when sharing with others, always ask permission before sharing.

7. Team Effort: Discuss with your child all of the people working to support them.  Teachers, specialists, doctors, therapists, coaches or counselors.   

8. Share Positive Role Models: Introduce them to accomplished individuals who've overcome similar challenges. (Prep ahead of time or spend some time doing this together).

Learning disabilities don't define your child; it is just one piece of their incredible story. Continued open, safe, and supportive conversations with your child about what they are feeling, what is and what is not working will go a long way.  Encourage your child to explore their passions that ignite their curiosity, focus on their strengths, and create a plan together that can address their challenges. Including your child in the process, giving them a voice, and modeling advocacy will empower your child to advocate for themselves. 

Remember, this is a journey of growth and self-discovery, not limitations!

References
National Center for Learning Disabilities. (2017).  Understanding Learning and Attention Issues. https://www.ncld.org/news/state-of-learning-disabilities/understanding-learning-and-attention-issues/ 
National Institute in Health (n.d) News in Health  Keeping Up in School?  Identifying Learning Problems.  (NIH Publication Special Issue).  U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, National Institutes of Health. https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/special-issues/parenting/keeping-up-school